How to Handle Partners Who Are Bullies

Bullying and bullies are in the news a lot these days. Usually these are kids who physically or mentally torment and intimidate their classmates. In business partnerships, we frequently see a different kind of bully – the partner (who never should have been a partner in the first place) who refuses to listen to other points of view, puts his own interests ahead of those of the partnership, and generally wreaks havoc on the business. So, how do you deal with these bullies?

The first and most effective way is not going into business with them in the first place. There are plenty of articles warning you to choose your partners carefully, so I won’t belabor that point, but it’s worth noting once more – there is virtually no business decision that will affect you more than the decision of who you go into business with – choose well.

Second, have clear, detailed and well thought out organizational and governing documents that all partners understand and agree to at the outset. These documents should cover such basic issues as: (i) who gets to be an owner; (ii) who participates in management and how management decisions are made; (iii) what your general business objectives are; (iv) what happens if the company needs more capital; (v) how you avoid or address disagreements; and (vi) how and when you will make the decision to sell, merge, dissolve or otherwise exit the business or the owners’ partnership.

The third strategy follows logically from the second – having those governing documents in place is not enough – follow them. The easiest way to handle a difficult partnership disagreement is to simply follow the rules that you’ve laid out for the business.

The final strategy is more of an admonition – do NOT allow your difficult partner to bully you into making bad decisions or otherwise treat you or the business unfairly or act unwisely and then claim to be a victim! I see this frequently, and it is NOT an excuse to simply say your partner is a bad person and made you do these things that were bad for you or the company. You’re the caretaker of your business, and no one said it would be easy. Stand up to the bully!

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